Videosocials co-founder, Mark Bullock, presents the first part of a series on what is going on inside our heads when we feel nervous about speaking in public or about one of our videos appearing on YouTube.
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Transcript:
Does even the thought of being on YouTube raise the hackles on the back of your neck and have you just shiver with fright?
Hi, I’m Mark Bullock with Videosocials.net and phoneBlogger.net and I’m going to do a series and the series is not to convince you to be a Videosocials member, although we invented Videosocials for people like you — that really feel anxiety about being on YouTube — being out there on camera.
And… but the purpose for the series is is to help us understand ‘What is that concern? What is going on psychologically, frankly, under the covers, under… underneath the surface that we may not recognize, so that we can address it — so that we can find a way around it?
So, in this exploration, one of the things that I wanted to look at is ‘Where does it come from?’ And because there’s some similarities between public speaking — in other words, speaking in front of a live audience, being on camera when we know that that recording is going to have a limited audience versus being on camera, on YouTube for the whole world to see, right?
So, one of the things that I think is very common is the concern over being judged, right? We don’t want to be judged, we want to be perfect. We don’t want to make any mistakes. We want those mistakes, if we make them, not to ever see the light of day. So, wow, that’s a lot of pressure that we put on ourselves, right?
So, a couple of things to think about: If we’re having a conversation with another person, we’re going to have little flub ups, we’re going to have little mistakes that show up and something I’d like you to consider is — if you can be in a conversation with one other person, you can be on YouTube. That’s a big leap. That’s a very big bridge to cross, okay. Or is it?
Because who are you speaking to when you’re speaking on camera? I suggest that you have somebody in mind. I suggest that you have the ideal client, the ideal prospect, the ideal person that you’d like to be having this conversation with just as if they were sitting across the desk from you rather than you looking into a camera.
So, that might help you a little bit to start to see that if you’re having a conversation with somebody, you’re gonna make little mistakes. You’re gonna have little flub -ups — you’re gonna have to look away to think of the, you know, the best word — of the best approach that you… that you might have.
But the underlying key here is… is that being willing to have a conversation versus trying to present something to someone. In other words, to present to an audience or present to the world, these ideas, these concepts, etc . Just have a conversation with somebody. Because if the person on the other side of the camera that’s viewing this next week, next month, next year can have the sense that you’re having a conversation with them, the little flub -ups, the little imperfections, only make you real and only make you more engaging to watch and to listen to.
So again, this is just part of a series that I’m doing to look at all of the different things that might be standing in the way — the first of which is that fear of judgment, that fear of ‘I got to get this perfect’ because you really don’t. You have to be real. You have to be authentic. And if you can be that, well, let’s talk about that in the next video.
If you found this tip valuable, there’s lots more at Videosocials.net/Academy. Again, Mark Bullock, Videosocials.net, phoneBlogger.net . Have a great day.